Divorce mediation for expats based in the Netherlands

If you are married abroad, have a nationality other than Dutch, it is still possible to divorce in the Netherlands. There are certainly additional matters involved when it comes to the applicable law in various cases, but we can help you with that.

Divorce mediation in the Netherlands is a highly encouraged and often effective way for couples to separate amicably and make agreements about the consequences of their divorce. It’s a collaborative process that prioritizes open communication and finding solutions that work for both parties, especially when children are involved.

Rohany is experienced in guiding (ex-)partners through divorce with care and clarity. Divorce is often a stressful and emotional time, filled with uncertainty and difficult decisions. This can be even more overwhelming when you’re living in a different country. If children are involved you’ll also need to create a parenting plan that meets legal requirements in the Netherlands.

As your mediator, Rohany helps create structure and calm in the process. You’ll receive professional support tailored to your needs, helping you reach fair and respectful agreements—together. Mediation offers a safe, constructive way to move forward, even in challenging circumstances.

Benefits of choosing ResolveVisie:

• Free introductory consultation
• Meetings at your home
• Appointment within 1 week
• Clarity about the housing situation
• Conversations with children
• Dedicated collaborating lawyer

Clarity for the future

A divorce is complex, especially for expats. Many important decisions must be made during an emotional time, and the added complexity of different nationalities, law and marriage locations often raises the question: Can we divorce in the Netherlands? It is essential to determine which law applies in your case. Rohany will guide you through this process step by step, providing structure and clarity.

• We will discuss your finances, including important questions about pensions and other assets. Since you are no longer fiscal partners, many changes will occur.
• If you own a home, a decision must be made: Will one of you stay there, perhaps together with the children? Or will you sell the property?
• All agreements will be formalized in a legally binding document called the divorce settlement agreement (the covenant). Our lawyer will submit this document to the court, so you don’t have to appear in person.
• You pay a fixed all-inclusive fee for the entire mediation service, which covers all divorce-related costs. This way, you will know upfront what the costs will be. One of you might also be eligible for legal aid subsidies, known as a “toevoeging” in Dutch.

Meetings are held at your home, creating a comfortable space for open conversation. Appointments can be scheduled during the day or evening. Both partners attend every meeting to ensure everyone has the same information. If preferred, meetings can also take place at a neutral location, provided by Rohany.

Divorce and your children

Do you have minor children? Together, we will create a parenting plan tailored to your family’s needs. This plan may include arrangements for child support and visitation schedules. Children naturally react differently to divorce and may have questions or worries. For this reason, it’s possible for Rohany to have a separate conversation with your children, giving them a safe space to express their feelings with an independent third party.

Here are some tips for parents:

• When planning your children’s holidays, allow for sufficient downtime. Let the school holidays settle before traveling or starting new routines.
• Important agreements for both of you are documented in the parenting plan, such as decisions about upbringing. Remember that different rules may apply in each household, and try to accept these differences.
• Because every child responds differently to divorce, we will support you in guiding your children through this transition in the best way possible.

What clients say about me

“Rohany guided me very well through my divorce. Before each session, she clearly explained what was expected. I found her easy to talk to, clear in her communication, and the sessions were always well-structured. I would definitely recommend her.” – Review from S. | Den Haag.

About Rohany

Are you looking for a mediator who understands the emotions and sensitivities involved in separation — someone who can guide both of you with care, clarity, and neutrality? Then you’ve come to the right place.

I am empathetic, involved, and impartial. Even in the face of conflict or strong emotions, I create space for each person at the table to express themselves and to share what truly matters to them. With patience and structure, I help guide you through the process — calmly, clearly, and with consistent communication. Everyone stays informed, every step of the way.

The period surrounding a divorce can be overwhelming. You’re faced with emotional uncertainty, while at the same time needing to make practical and often complex decisions. You’re not just ending a relationship — you’re untangling a life you’ve built together.

Before I became a mediator, I held various senior management and executive roles in the corporate world — first in the mobility sector, and later in healthcare. That experience helped me develop strong communication and leadership skills, as well as the ability to recognize and navigate opposing interests. I work with structure and purpose, while always keeping sight of the human side of every situation.

How long does it take to arrange a divorce?

It’s difficult to say in advance exactly how long the process will take or how many sessions will be needed. Much depends on how much you agree with each other on various matters. The mediator does not set the pace — you do. Based on experience, it usually takes at least two months before the divorce can be officially filed with the court. Typically, three to five sessions of about an hour and a half each are needed. After that, the timing of the final divorce ruling depends on the court’s schedule, which can often be relatively quick — sometimes within just a few weeks.

How do you keep communication open?

Nobody wants a bitter, ‘fight-filled’ divorce. You can prevent this by staying in conversation and identifying your shared interests — for example, the well-being of your children. By also recognizing and acknowledging what is going well, understanding often grows, creating space to find solutions together. Communication can be difficult during a divorce, but it’s important to maintain good communication both during and after the process.